friendshipwithoneselfisallimportant,becausewithoutitonecannotbefriendswithanyoneelseintheworld.-eleanorroosevelt

weoftenfocusonbuildingrelationshipswithothersthatweforgettheessentialfirststep:beingfriendsofourselves.thatisthecrucialfirststepifwearetohavegoodrelationshipswithothers.howcanwehavegoodrelationshipswithothersifwedon'tevenhavegoodrelationshipwithourselves?

theproblemmightbeworsethanweexpect.maybewedon'tlikeourselveswithoutrealizingit.hereisasimplechecklist;isthereanythingyoudon'tlikeaboutyourselffromtheselist?

yourpast

maybeyouhavemademistakesinthepastwhichyoufeelbadabout.youmightbedisappointedwithyourselfonwhyyoucouldmakesuchmistakes.evenifthathappenedindistantpast,yoursubconsciousmindstillhasareasonnottolikeyourself.

yourbackground

youmightwishthatyouwerebornindifferentfamily,orthatyouhavedifferentbackground.maybeyoucouldnotacceptthefactthatyouarenotasluckyasothers,whoseemtogetwhatevertheywanteffortlesslybecauseoftheirbackground.

yourpersonalitytraits

youmighthavesomepersonalitytraitsthatyoudon'tlike.forexample,youmaybeanintrovertandyoudon'tlikeit;youwishyouareanextrovert.